Saying I DO to Self

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As much as social forums get on my nerves, they do inspire me!  While on facebook today I saw a picture of a beautiful flower dress (above) with a comment of wearing it to marry self.  Some might think of that is a very silly statement, but it is one of much importance.  There is a good many out there looking for their mates, but several of these people have failed to know them self.  When we get into relationships, at times many of us loose our self.  We become so focused on the well being of our Beloved, that we forget our self.  Many times these relationships fail, not because of what we didnt do..because of ALL we did do.  This has very much to deal with boundaries, boundaries of self.  One point we must all absorb is that it does all start with us.  Gandhi said it best “be the change you wish to see in the world” (rough quote).  He was very much correct.  We must take responsibility for our own self and teach others how to treat us.  Do you value your time?  Do you keep promises to yourself?  If you are not, then why would you expect anyone else to do so.  Self worth is key here!  One way to begin this path to peace within, is to marry yourself..yes you heard me right!  Make those vows to yourself.  Commit to YOU!  Forgive yourself, love your self unconditional in sickness and health, protect your self in all situations, adhere to your integrity.  You are the only person that will be there for you fully.  We have been going through many changes here lately, and during these changes we can become unbalanced and just unsure of our self.  When you are feeling overwhelmed and lost, you need to come back to you! These feeling are clear indications.  Luckily, I was able to be in a safe place to do this.  I married myself 3 years ago.  Although not publicized, and honestly I believe only one of my closest friends knew about me wanting to do it.  I did and it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.  I am not promising you a life of no problems or stresses, but I will say that it brought a peace to my heart that I have never experienced AND I learned those lessons and proceed carefully into situations now.   When we are loving and protecting our self, we do not allow our self to be in situations that are not for our highest good.  Sure, we may find our self in a storm, but you will have peace in your heart knowing that all is OK and that this too will pass and there is a valuable lesson to be learned.  Committing you to your self is a very special, sacred event so go all out and have a simple ceremony.  Some find themselves in relationships trying to heal the other person, or wishing they would change to suit them better, begin wrapping their whole self around another person.  These relationships normally don’t work and leave us feeling depleted, heart broken and bitter.  This is where we need to end the cycle.  If you have healthy boundaries, this probably would not happen.  We can have compassion for others, but their trials are their own and their path is theirs to walk, so is yours.  You must honor all boundaries, beginning with yours.  If some thing or some one is causing you pain, why are you still doing it or still involved with them?  Sure there can be concern situations making it not cut and dry, but explore it.   The first step is SELF, you have to be balanced within your SELF!  Look into the mirror, what needs healed?  Can you look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love you?  One book that helped me is “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay, this is a really good start.  Value you, nurture you and love you..yes and at times forsaking all others.  Listen to you intuition, meditate, find that stillness with in you…then listen.  I am not promising a magic pill, but I am telling you when you begin to get rid of the garbage the buzzards wont come!

Namaste                                                                                                                                              Stacy

~ by TerraRubrae on March 3, 2014.

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